Today I want to talk about being “sick enough.”
There might be many of you out there who say, “I’m not skinny enough to have an eating disorder” or, “I’m not sick enough to need help with my disordered eating because I’m still overweight” or, “Being on a diet isn’t a problem, even if it drives me crazy. Everyone is on a diet. It’s just normal.”
First of all, I want to debunk the logic in some of those statements.
There is no “overweight.” Over what weight? The weight the BMI tells you is “normal”? If you’ve been a follower on @FreedomwithFoodandFitness on Instagram or a listener of this podcast for any amount of time, you know how I feel about BMI (Body Mass Index). It’s a false picture of individual health. It’s a lazy way to treat a patient. It’s arbitrary, man-made ranges.
Second, if something can be labeled as “disordered” and “drives you crazy,” I don’t care how many other people are doing it. It’s just like your mom used to say, “If everyone was jumping off a bridge, would you?”
Lastly, let’s really look at this definition of normal. Common? Yes. It is common for women to diet and hate their bodies and seek weight loss or be judged for not doing so. Is it normal? No. Not even a little bit. Do not confuse common with normal. Eating intuitively is normal. Trusting your body is normal. Letting your weight fall where it will is normal. Not chasing some arbitrary beauty ideal is normal.
All this to say: You ARE sick enough.
Graphic by Alana Van Der Sluys
- feel unhappy
- feel out of control around food
- feel obsessive about your weight
- are sacrificing parts of your life for a diet
- feel depleted, lethargic
- constantly think about food
- constantly look at yourself in the mirror
- constantly criticize your body
- are a slave to the scale and your diet.
- you are “overweight”
- still want to lose weight
you ARE sick enough.
And there is NOTHING wrong with that.
I’ve spoken about people pleasing before, and acting like you don’t have a problem in order to look perfect to others or to not make others uncomfortable is just people pleasing. You don’t owe anything to anyone and everyone has their issues. We may not know about them, but they’re there. They don’t owe us to be perfect and we don’t owe that to them either.
You deserve support.
You deserve to be happy.
You deserve to be free of this.
As someone who thought she could “handle it” alone, please know that I am here to help you.
🚨If you need help and support getting “unsick”, I have a FREE FOOD FREEDOM MASTERCLASS in the spring to help you with just that. DM or comment ✌🏻MASTERCLASS ✌🏻to save a spot on the waitlist!